In between other things I have been doing some work in the yard.  It is interesting how things change.  As we have gotten older Merril and I have decided we do not want things we may move to weigh a lot (we have purchased some large but very light pots) and we prefer clear to cluttered.
The place has changed so much in the time we have been here.  But I think we are happy with the way we are getting it, and content for others to assist us maintain the property.
We have downsized our greenhouse a lot and are extending the side garden, path, and will get some grass when we decide on how much we need.  We did try once to spread seed.  The doves thought it was heaven and could be seen munching away on the seed we spread just for them it seems.
I had been working on the area on Friday. Saturday we were due to attend a luncheon.  Until it was time to go, Merril cooked and I decided to work more in the yard.
The lunch was really good and although there were a few less people than last time it was a real sing along before we ate.  As usual the food was scrumptious.  I had a tooth out Thursday and was being careful that I did not overexert myself and I have been watching what I eat.  Well I always watch it up to my mouth.  But I did have dessert as I decided there was a lot of soft food there, and soft food I should eat.
Merril and I helped pack up and went home for a rest.  After that I started in the yard again.  I am happy where I am at with things.  There is stuff I will need the assistance of others to do but I reckon for what I need to do there is only a few hours left in it.  

I really do feel the way being talked about in the latest James Clear email – though I do put one proviso on it.
I reckon I need real discernment when it comes to people.  I very much believe in seeing the best in people, but I refuse to be naive.   This may sound terrible, but I think there is a truth here that can be applied to this situation.  I have heard someone say, “just because you are paranoid does not mean no one is after you.”
It is so easy to be lead by my prejudice – to think the way I feel is the way it is.  In some instances nothing could be further from the truth, while in others a warning bell sounds that I do well to listen to.  I do not mean rush out and declare something but to weigh it up and take heed to the opinion of other respected ones.
Having said that I do think I can be often too quick to assess a situation based on my own negative feelings and experiences.  It is so easy to assume to worst when it is like a mate of mine says, “he’s just trying to hustle up  a living like the rest of us.”
In other words, sometimes something is said that I misunderstand or misconstrue.  It may be a manifestation of a thought being fought but unsuccessfully resisted at that time.  I do not know how many times I have said something that was not really the way I felt.  It was something I was battling for sure but was my worst self and can only un-necessarily pull another down.  Often when said, that is the lead argument of another, and the spiral continues and deteriorates.
Anyway a former CEO of Pepsi, Indra Nooyi said, “"Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different.
When you assume negative intent, you're angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don't get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, "Maybe they are saying something to me that I'm not hearing." So assume positive intent has been a huge piece of advice for me…
If you react from a negative perspective – because you didn’t like the way they reacted – then it just becomes two negatives fighting each other. But when you assume positive intent, I think often what happens is the other person says, "Hey, wait a minute, maybe I’m wrong in reacting the way I do because this person is really making an effort."
The outlook can definitely seem Pollyanna like, but it has made a huge difference for me.

Ok I did not expect that.
Yesterday morning started off typically for a Thursday.  I have breaky with a mate.  This time it was just up the road.  Merril who was doing a walk joined us at the end.
During the time I did not really need to consider my tooth for some reason.  Though the day before I really felt something was amiss with it.
When I came home I was watching some telly and having a rest (Thursday is the day I have off) and at the end of that I really knew I needed to do something about my tooth as soon as possible.  I felt like it was disintegrating and it was the same tooth where one dentist told me I really needed major work on it.
Merril booked an appointment with the dentist for me.  I thought she was booking where I normally go.  It turns out she was booking where she normally goes. I am sorta pleased it worked out that way, as this dentist is more likely to mention all options rather than only the expensive ones.
I got in at 2.30.  Before that I was wanting to get a couple of trees for our yard (not huge ones and ones I could keep in a pot.)  (I am really over heaps of weight so we ended up buying large pots but light weight.  I think I will use polystyrene and potting mix and the tree will stay in one place)
So we went to a nursery.  The thought was to go to the nursery (in Deception Bay) and then get a coffee before going to my dentist appointment.  The guy we bought plants from really knew his stuff and was incredibly helpful.
He mentioned the oldest one in the world of omme tree we got is near Warrick. He said it is estimated to be about 450 years old.  I thought I should be gone by the time this one reaches that age.
I find it amazing that I just need to ask to get a discount.  I said is that your best price if we get a couple.  He took 10% off everything we got.
We then had a coffee and I went to the dentist.  A couple of x-rays were taken and he showed me to tooth had had its day.   I had it out completely.  Needles are way better than they used to be though extraction still seems primitive.  The dentist needs to brace himself and pull.  I am glad I was anesthetised.
He told me I would need to meditate for three days for recovery.  I said that won’t happen as I need to set up tables and chairs this weekend.  He then said he was joking though I need to be quieter than I intended.  
I am on pain killers and today is supposed to be the worst day.  So far so good but the gardening I think will need to wait.