I am big on the following.  It was a quote from a James Clear email a while ago.
"If you look for evidence that people are conspiring to hold you back and the world is working against you, then it will take you no time at all to find precisely that. If you expect to encounter helpful people and experience a world that is working with you, then you find plenty of evidence to support that view as well.
The raw material for a sweet life or a bitter life is always there. The story you emphasize is the one you notice."
What I am big on is what I emphasise grows.  It is true for myself and others.  Only the other day someone mentioned they felt they needed a bath after taking with another.  The reason was the negativity that was emphasised.
I think most people experience examples of that and I know I endevour to not be that person.  It is so easy to talk about the bad things that may be happening to me or the bad things I see happening in the world.  The other day someone said they no longer concentrate on something as they found they were getting angrier and angrier.  So the best thing to do was walk away.
It is not a case of burying my head in the sand, but a choice I make not to treat it like it is all there is.  As the quote emphasises both elements are present.  Good and bad.  As always I have a choice.  If I choose to emphasise the bad, then there is plenty to keep me going.  There seems to be more and more of it at the moment.
But I can also choose to emphasise the good.  Instead of highlighting the obvious bad I highlight the good.  As has been stated much more is achieved via carrot than stick.  I am thinking it is what “pass it forward” is all about.
When I encourage and highlight the good then good tends to become more pervasive.   The “Butterfly Effect.”   I want to be a part of the solution rather than a part of the problem.

Something James Clear had in his email got me.  He said, “…In many ways, growth is unlearning."
I know that I have had trouble accepting that.  It is always a case of eating humble pie.  Something I have held to for a time is proven to be false.  I do not like to admit I am wrong. Especially if it is a view I have espoused and then, in a moment of clarity, I see it is different to what I have held to.
That is one of the reasons why I reckon it is really important to find out things for myself.  Second hand information can be provided in a well-meaning way, and the one stating the case may totally believe what is being said.  I will accept something perhaps with a grain of salt until I have evidence it is correct.
I have not always done that and a case in point comes immediately to mind.  Fortunately, the passing on of the information was limited so the damage was limited.  I reckon it must be really hard for someone to admit to something that is contrary to what they have espoused to many.
I have great admiration for someone willing to admit to a proven error in thinking or belief.  To me it indicates a bigger person than someone who remains closed to something they cannot agree with, only because they refuse to agree with it.
So often a whole new world of possibilities opens up with acceptance.  Error is always troublesome.  It seems to me something can become more and more incredible the weaker its foundations are seen to be.
Probably one of my most important stances has to do with not accepting wrong thinking.  I find there is so much that can be so close to right or may even contain some right.  But it can also contain some wrong too.  I do not want to descend into a rabbit hole only to discover it houses a snake.
There has only been one perfect man, and it is not me.  I need to unlearn some things but to me that is better for myself and others than believing a lie, and encouraging others to believe it to.

Well I do not know this has ever happened before.  I totally forgot the post.  I remembered it earlier but have been doing other things and just remembered the post.
I may have some excuse.  Last night we had a doozy of a storm.  I admit I do not like storms in relation to the big tree that is in our yard.  I am always please when the count for the lightning indicates the storms is no longer coming but going.  Last night the wind was strong.  Consistent wind is ok in my mind.  It is the random big gusts I do not like.
Anyway the upshot was the event we were going to last night was called off.  I realized there were some things Merril and I normally do before or after the event, in preparation for future events.  They needed to be done.  So at 5.30am I went and did what needed doing.
At 7am we had a meeting with the builder of our granny flat scheduled.  I was back in plenty of time.  Then the guys arrived who were doing the kitchen.  I had committed to a few other things I was going to do so I did them.  They are finished now and I was all set to get on to something else I was going to do today.  Then I remembered the post.
Hence the lateness.  Everyone is working away happily (well I assume happily).  Merril and I have decided to spend our days working out of the shed out the back.  Thankfully there is an air conditioner.  There is also an ern we use to grab a coffee when needed.
The home is chokers with stuff right now.  We are endeavouring to keep out of the workers way, so they can just go about their job.  The kitchen is coming along well. We are pleased that everyone working for us seems friendly and has a great attitude.
I am particularly pleased that the people installing the kitchen do not seem to be being taken for a ride.  The job they have to do can be done well and they are given a reasonable time.
So things are really busy around us and we have spurts of business but feel like it is all coming together.