It is a day after the email from James Clear and there are things in there I like.  I had a choice of a few things I could write about and maybe I will write on others another time.
I see rules as a “follow because it is a part of me and I want to” rather than only a “follow  because I have to.”  In other words, rule keeping to me is an internal desire rather than an external law.  But for me my relationship built on love takes practice on my part.
 I do like what is said here and believe the principle is applicable to everyone.
"Two simple rules: You get better at what you practice. Everything is practice.
Look around and you may be surprised by what people are “practicing" each day. If you consider each moment a repetition, what are most people training for all day long? Many people are practicing getting mad on social media. Others are practicing the fine art of noticing how they have been wronged. Still more have mastered the craft of making plans (but never following through).
But, of course, it doesn't have to be that way.  What are you practicing?"
I totally hold to such things. It is a quote but to me a truism that I am either getting bitter or better.  My choice.  What am I practicing?
They say practice makes perfect and as I say often “what you think about grows.”   I very much feel the choice is mine.  I can give attention to the wrongs in this world and get angry, or to righting the wrongs and get busy.  Righting wrongs to me is not just changing perhaps inadequate rules, but seeing me changed and coming at it from there.
I blow it and get disappointed, but I know my heart wants the best.  Caring matters to me.  I make mistakes.  But I’m practicing.

I find it interesting the thoughts I have and mull over.  I guess I am a practical person in the sense that often I think, “how does that relate to what I do?”
For example, I have been giving some thought recently to the fact that sometimes my concept is not the way it is.  But that does not mean the way it is, is at fault?
I was thinking about an orange. (A real juicy one).  If I had never seen an orange before I could imagine it being four times bigger than it is.  I may have heard an orange is good to eat and contains vitamins and juice.  I may be real hungry and think if I can find an orange I can find sustenance and vitamins good for me.
Yet when I find the orange it is four times smaller than I imagined.  Has the orange failed me or has my imagination?  I reckon it is healthy for me to adapt to the new reality, and try to locate four oranges.
I am thinking that way because I know it is possible to be disappointed when something turns out to not be the way I thought it was.  To me, disappointment is natural, as is moving on.  It is un-natural and unhealthy to throw my hands up in despair when something does not turn out to be the way I thought it was.
I see that sort of thing in the mowing.  Yes the time has arrived and I intend to do it.  My concept is it should take 45 minutes.  But it actually may be different than I imagine.  The grass is pretty thick and may require going over twice.  It seems there may be a bit of dew around and that could slow me down.  In fact, the mowing may take longer than I anticipate.
Do I not mow because it is different to what I imagined?   The answer for me is to still do it no matter how long it takes.  The grass is there no matter if I mow or not.  It will continue to grow and as it is seeding (as it does this time of year) there will be more of it.
I feel it is healthy and wise to adjust to the reality I am faced with.  To me the truth of a matter always liberates.  Getting over the disappointment allows me to adjust and hence grow as a person.  But holding on to disappointment hinders my growth as a person (and perhaps means the lawn does not get cut! And it needs it)

I have a book that I have been flipping through.  It is called “Quotable Quotes.”  I am liking some of the things I am reading.
I must admit sometimes I will quote quotes with a slight variation.  My thinking is just because something is a quote or a well-used phrase, does not mean it is right to me. 
I have used quotes and they are rightly coming back to be used against me. I often say “there’s nothing like a good joke, and that’s nothing like a good joke.”  Something else I often say that I have actually heard no one else say is “if I knew what my blind spot was, it wouldn’t be a blind spot.”  The other thing I sometimes say that I have heard no where else is, “when iron sharpens iron there are sparks.”  That is from “as iron sharpens iron so a man sharpens the countenance of a friend.”
I am actually looking at quotes in the book on friendship.   Something said that rings true with me is a quote by Harry Emerson Fosdick, “no man is the whole of himself, his friends are the rest of him.”  I am not sure about the way it is put, but it is something I very much hold to.  That is, I need others.  Bit like the quote, “no man is an island.”  My part may be infinitesimal as another’s on me may be, yet I know in coping I have a multitude of influences I take on board.
That reminds me of something else I saw yesterday.  It was commenting how many think “what is the use as what I have is like only a drop in the ocean.”  It had me think, but the ocean is made up of many drops.  So I would say every voice matters.  Some are to be embraced, while others are to be rejected.  Whatever the case though, when handled right, whatever comes my way will make me a stronger person.
Another one I like is by Charles L. Allen. “You can make more friends in a month by being interested in them than in ten years by trying to get them interested in you.”  I have found that.  Most want a listening ear.  They want to be heard.  It seems being heard is something that does not occur as often as it could.  It seems the one who shouts the loudest today is often heard and acted upon, but what is proposed is often not in the best interests of many.
When it comes to friendships, I have a saying that is close to me. I have no idea who said it first but it sure was not me. “a friend is someone who, when you make a mistake, does not think you have done a permanent job.”
I need those sorts.