Moving Right Along

As soon as I named yesterdays post, I though it was an appropriate title for another way I feel.
There are times I want something good for myself, and I will do what it takes to get it.  I will not compromise by doing immoral things, but so often doing things comes down to having a number of ways to do them which involve only choice and not moral judgement.  For example, when planting flowers I can prepare the ground first or go get the flowers.  It is not the process that matters most but the outcome.
I reckon it is a huge mistake not to do something because I have never done it that way before, or those I am not fond of do it that way, or I am just stubborn enough to make it harder for myself.
To me the object is to make it happen.  How it happens is secondary.  I have stood wondering why am I doing this when for whatever reason I refused to do something for one of the above reasons and realized that really I am the one that suffers as a result.  Something could be dealt with if I was not so stubborn.
I reckon forgiveness is similar.  So often it seems easy not to forgive but really the object of my unforgiveness is blissfully unaware of my attitude.  And if I let the attitude remain and fester all involved can be really un-necessarily hurt.  There is a quote about unforgiveness that goes something like “not forgiving is like poisoning yourself and expecting the object of your unforgiveness to die.”
The point of it all is that so often I am the one to suffer if I make it “my way or the highway.”  It is the outcome that matters and achieving it in the best way possible - not in trying to achieve it via “my way” only.