Clarity

I have been thinking about a word this morning that I really want to be my experience.  “Clarity.”
When I look up its meaning the first is, “coherent and intelligible.”  I can say I want that for sure.  There are times thought I know where I am not understood or misunderstood.  That is unfortunate and in most cases does not mean what I want to say does not make sense, but sometimes the way I say it leaves a bit to be desired.
I also battle against something I think is prevalent.  People (including myself) hear what they want to hear.   In my experience this is way common.  I think it is often a reason for motives being ascribed to someone that are not there - or are in very small amounts.
The clarity I was thinking of that is important to me is, “clearness or lucidity as to perception or understanding’
I really do not want to take on board something that may be believed by another but is built on lies.  Or perhaps built on what they have been taught that really represent the teachers view of the world that is lacking or simply handed down and believed without examination.
To me there are many voices in this world.  None (as far as I am concerned) is invalid.  But being valid does not make it right.  It may be believed, (and I think everyone deserves respect and dignity) but that does not mean I agree with everything I am told.
That is really what I mean by valid.  It is not my role to attempt to shoot down the thoughts and ideas of another just because I do not agree.  What I will always attempt to do though is hear and understand what is being said.
Where I do not agree it is incumbent that I express my thoughts with respect.  Because I respect each person it is my desire to be closer to someone despite my maybe disagreeing with them.  True friendship may involve someone coming around but always at the very least involves respectfully agreeing to disagree.
As far as I am concerned true friendship is based on mutual respect despite differences.  Friendships built on agreeing only are valid but it seems to me are sometimes not as strong.