Wilting

From what I have seen it is the condition of the heart that determines outlook more than environment.
That is not to say there are not environments that need changing, or there is never a time when my environment should not be escaped if possible.  I would be foolish to stay in a dangerous environment or one that pulls me down big time.  If I have the opportunity to escape, escape.
For many situations my outlook is why take the hard way when there is an easier way.  I was close to someone who deliberately chose hard to be prepared for hard.  To me it was like choosing misery now in preparation for misery later.
I must admit that is not me.  There are times when I know hard does me good.  Yet I will not seek hard in preparation for hard.  Hard tends to happen anyway.  My preparation for it is to gather provisions in summer for scarcity in winter.  It is not something I peruse with a “why me?” attitude.  It is just something I do, and I have what I need when I need it.
Where I can I know I need to flee things that will pull me down.  To me that is not a mark of weakness but of strength.  It is a knowing my capacities at a certain point.  It is not saying I will never be good in the environment, but it is saying that right now I need to work on me to increase my strength.
I am no good for anyone if I am no good for me.  I feel the best way I can help another is to have faced and overcome the same debilitating situation.  Where I have not faced something a person is going through, I reckon my best is to be with them where possible but always to let them know I am alongside to help.
When it comes to bad environments, many to aid are definitely better than facing something alone.  Battle are won with superior fire power and overwhelming.  Sometimes environments compound a bad situation and distract from the condition of the heart.