When Loving is Hard

One thing leads to another.  I was talking yesterday about love.  I got to thinking that loving those close to me and those I care about, is quite easy.  But loving those who are far from me or who wrong me that is a bigger ask.
I was considering vengeance.  There are those that rather than do the right thing by me do the wrong thing.  Either intentionally or unintentionally.  I definitely find those harder to love, but it was the alternative I was considering.
I personally do not think we were designed to hold bitterness.  I do think in war striking back is legitimate when used as a war tactic to gain the advantage over an opposition.  I do not think it serves a good purpose when done merely in retaliation.
I think of myself and those I have met.  Not once has bitterness seemed a good look.  Many feel they have a right to revenge, and that an injustice has been done against them.  Often that to me is true, but I still have never seen bitterness or revenge as something that makes the offended look better.
Loving in that situation is the sort of thing I need help with because loving someone who has wronged me sure does not come naturally.  But again, I think of the alternative which is not a good look.
And I have found such a thing is often not a one off.  I can find peace in my heart today and want another to “get theirs” tomorrow.  It seems to me often loving is something that grows rather than gets dealt with in one sitting and I move on.  The big thing to me is I am moving in the right direction.  (Hating another is to me counter-productive to my well-being.  I may legitimately hate what they have done.  I can also work to ensure it does not happen again or to someone else.)
It may seem selfish but in this case, I do think it is all about me.  The question for me is will I let the negative actions of another negatively determine my peace of mind?  For me if I answer yes then I reckon I am the one who will suffer.  I may inflict suffering on another but as the saying goes, “two wrongs don’t make a right.”
Anyway, food for thought and it makes a good meal.