Tears

I do not know that I agree with “laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone.”
I remember Kim Huges saying something like he tends to cry easy.  Like for a sad episode of Lassie or something (that sure dates me).  I saw him on tv yesterday.  He is looking older.  I am at that delusional age where I think all my contemporaries look older except me.
Tears are often seen as something to be frowned upon for guys to shed.  Yet I have found tears to be really healthy on occasions. I remember when my mum passed, I shed copious tears but there came a time when after each episode I felt better.  The missing was the same but my ability to cope seemed to improve.
When my brother passed I really lost it at his funeral.  To this day I want to shed tears when I talk about him.  We had a very strong bond.  Others would agree he was a hard man to get close to, but we did it and I am grateful we did.  I am the richer for our non judgemental love.
Don’t tell Merril this but when she cries I often do too.  It occurs mostly when she is praying for others.  She feels it so strong she sheds tears.
That sorta leads to my point about not crying alone.  Some people are just softies and shedding tears is a dna thing.  It seems to me that for others it is an empathy thing.  Someone experiences something sad that another relates to.  Often that one getting along side the one grieving makes a difference.   In our happiness and sadness there is a desire to be understood.
But I reckon where appropriate, male or female, shed tears. My experience is tears are health and are not my permanent state.  Sorrow lasts for a time.  It is a valid emotion even though I have an underlying confidence.