Solutions

There is a saying I have read and kept but never posted it.  I was reminded of it while thinking about something.  “Decide what kind of life you actually want, then say no to everything that isn’t that.”
I was considering what I want to achieve, and how easy it is for me to harbour something that stands in the way.  I have personal issues that will remain personal as I do not believe this is the forum to talk about them.  But the example that came to mind was someone who’s ambition was to be a brilliant cricket player.  Yet they were an alcoholic.  They may want to be a really good batsman but cannot resist having a drink at every opportunity.
Because of the effect of too much alcohol, they would be prone to mistakes (that is one of the reasons drinking and driving are no no’s.).  They would have a choice.  Deal with the alcohol or give up on the dream.
There is no doubt some things are hard to do, but I need to decide what I really want.  It is weird how so often the choice is between something destructive and something liberating.  Destructive things seem to so often have an allure.  What seems harmless at the beginning starts a downward spiral and often I am the last to see it.
It always seems there is a price to pay in pursuing things that are best for me.  But from where I stand that’s life.  To go after something important to me generally means forgoing something else that may be legitimate but incompatible.
I do not mean family and rest, and things that may be totally unrelated occasionally.  I am big on balance.  I saw a guru that had not cut his nails on one hand.  Sure they were impressive, but it totally ruled out doing lots of things that involved both hands.  To me that is unbalanced.  It is my firmly held conviction that whatever I pursue should be best for the total me and not just a part of me.
Some things are not easy though.  That is one of the reasons I sought help.
I reckon one of the best ways to get rid of what is unwanted is to crowd it out with something I do want.  When cordial is too strong, I add more water.  It is the same with problems.  It does me no good to look at problems from every angle and highlight it.  What does me good is dealing with it.  Add water.  Sometimes that means doing so much of what may be good for me the problem is crowded out.  The fix may not be instant (all the better when it is) but it is a fix in progress.
I do not have the inclination to concentrate on my problems.  Solutions are the go for me.  That inevitably means dealing with whatever may hold me back from achieving my dreams.