Self-Control

There are times when people say to me “I couldn’t help myself.”  I do have a problem with that from what I know about me.
I reckon I always have a choice.  A desire or possible course of action may seem overwhelming, but I know I can always choose which way I go.  That does not necessarily make it easy though, but I am discovering more and more it depends how much I want what I want.  What is more important to me I will go for, even if it means missing something else I want.
It seems to me that is harder these days due to living in a time of instant gratification.  “Buy now pay later” seems to personify that.  It is not that wanting to do something different is any less, it is just that there is more today that says, “have what you want now.”
It may be harder today, but everyone still has a choice it seems.  Aristotle may have said “The self-controlled man craves for the things he ought, as he ought, and when he ought,” but that to me is only part of the story.
And I really did like one thing I saw that talked about addiction and how it had nothing to do with self-control.  It may have been in the first place, but addictions to me are where something controls me rather than me controlling something.  I know I need help in those areas.  If anything is not a “try harder” area it is addictions.  Turning defeat into victory in those areas is a battle worth fighting but often wins are incremental.
It seems many want to do the right thing, but I have found “wanting to” and actually “doing” are two different things.  It can be easy when I am feeling strong and untouchable.  It is a different story often though.  What I know is not good for me can be so enticing.  So often I know the right thing to do but that does not mean I do it.  I know for sure I need help.
After asking for help, what I am finding more and more is it is good for me to put something off for the time being.  There may be an acknowledgement it is the wrong thing and the way I would go in myself, but I find it is good for me to put it off.  So often the drive passes.  At the time it may seem overwhelming but give it time and often it assumes more reasonable proportions.
Less and less it seems to me this is a matter of pulling myself up by my boot straps.  What matters to me is this is available to all rather than just super people.  The thing is I am not a super person and so are the majority.  Personally I want stuff that works for me.  I so not want to be an observer wishing my life away thinking that such things are too hard for me and the realm only of I wish.
All that matters to me is something is doable.  I am happy to do my part to make it happen.  I reckon often my part is want to o it in the first place.