Saying Something - Sometimes with Words

I read a sentence the other day I really liked. “Being ready to learn and reluctant to correct.”
I think it is probably reasonable to wonder why that impacted me.  It is just that not doing that seems to be the major hinderance to closeness I know of.
I have seen it time and again (and battle with it myself) so often people love dearly and try to tell others what is best for them.  All the while a person needs to know they are loved first before something is received and sometimes acted upon.
I really learned this being close to someone who was as closed as anyone I knew.  I do not take credit for seeing things as clearly as I did, but I needed to endure years of being ignored until it was final accepted that no matter if this person accepted my thoughts regarding them I accepted them.  Honestly when the penny dropped the change in behaviour was remarkable.
It seems to me that so often people are well meaning and often right in what they say and believe, but the method of conveying the truth is floored.  What I meant to change for the better, so often drives away because the object of love does not feel loved.  They feel judged.  That may not be the motive, but it is what is received.
That can be due to innumerable reasons.  I honestly feel that prayer is a key.  The power is not in prayer, but in the one being prayed to.  That has made the difference for me anyway.
Time being misunderstood need not be wasted time.  So often another has something to say.  Sometimes even with words.  When I am willing to dismount from my high horse, I have much to learn.  So often it is the ones who I would prefer to “teach” that have lessons for me to learn.
I saw a movie one time and a guy was with someone in the work environment and his thought was that he was there for the other person.  Things were not going as planned and his attitude suffered.  His wife said to him something like maybe he was there for you rather than you there for him.
The upshot for me is that it is not necessarily about who is there for who, but being willing to love and learn.  The quickest way to acceptance is to obviously love and humbly learn.