Keepers

My phone is playing up.  When I turn it on it won’t leave the screen that tells you it is an android.  I cannot get to anything I have on the phone.  I have googled the problem and it is a recognised one and it tells you to take the cover off and remove the battery and put it back and that could work.  So we thought we would do that.  The cover would not come off.  We had to google how to get the over off and we still have not got it off.
Anyway all that to say I had no music this morning.  Oh I could have gotten a phone if I was willing to disturb the misses.  I was not.
I was thinking about stuff as I washed up and had a little smile to myself as I thought of something.  This was ages ago but a white guy in the jungle pulled out his hanki and blew his nose then put the hanki back in his pocket.  A native saw what happened and said “I don’t know why you would want to keep that.”
I laugh because I am aware of our process, but it occurred to me what a reasonable statement that is for so many things.
It seems to me the object of everyone is to be healthy.  I am yet to hear someone say “you beauty, I am sick.  Just what I wanted.”    (Notwithstanding forensic evidence used to justify not being at work). On the contrary I am often willing to spend heaps if I have to, to stay healthy.  Yet frequently I will attempt to deal with physical matters, but I am willing to neglect other things in my personality which have just as devastating effect. They may or may not affect me physically, but untreated they are unhealthy.
It occurred to me I cannot harbour hurt.  The statement rang in my ears, “I don’t know why you would want to keep that.”  Someone said something at work to me years ago I have never forgotten.  It was something like, “It’s gotta be true for all, or it is not true at all.”  I know my hurts are infinitesimal compared with some, but I reckon the same applies to all.  To stay healthy unhealthy things need to be dealt with.
I have found that sometimes my hurt is justified.  But what I have found and seen so often is that when others take justice into their own hands the outcome is devastating for others.  I am a great believer in pursuing natural justice, but I need to make sure my motive is justice rather than revenge.
I thought about other things like anger, disappointment and resentment and came to the same conclusion.  “Why would I want to keep that?”