Intentionality

It is not dictionary day, but I have a word I want to explore more.  Intentionality.  It was actually something I heard yesterday and thought I want to think about that more, - and what better way to think about it then to write about it!
I did look up the meaning of the word but I confess Wikipedia was no help at all.  Its first sentence in trying to attract me to the site was, “A central issue for theories of intentionality has been the problem of intentional inexistence: to determine the ontological status of the entities which are the objects of intentional states.”  They lost me.
What I mean when I talk about intentionality is “the intent to do something I know will produce positive results rather than to stay in negativity.”
The example I think of is when my mum passed away.  I grieved.  That to me is natural and right.  In matters like this grieving is a part of the healing process.  But I do think there is a point (and I imagine it differs for everyone) where grief becomes a noose rather than a liberator.  I had leave entitlements which allowed me to do what I needed to do in saying goodbye to mum.
There was a time when that had happened, but I still had more leave.  That to me was when intentionality came into it.  I chose to go back to work and deal with matters beyond myself rather than stay home and wallow.
They say one of the most healthy things one can do is to pursue an activity that removes attention off myself and onto others.  It has to be done at the right time.  To early and grief is not dealt with (for me it remains a heart ache but not a showstopping heart ache).  Too late and opportunities pass me by, and grief becomes an open sore that refuses to heal.
For me intentionality has life applications.  Sometimes it matters not how I feel, doing what is right and best and takes my attention away from myself is the best thing I can do. 
I find more often than not when I move my attention from myself to others, somehow my needs are met.  I may not know how that works, but I am glad it does.
To me it all starts with the intentionality.