Hurt

Everyone is probably so much better than I am, but I find it too possible to hold on to stuff.  I can say that I am over it and to all intents and purposes I am.  I soon find out however how true that is, when confronted by a situation that brings it up again in full colour.
I do reckon I deal with things and move on.  That does not mean I have dealt with it appropriately.  Just because something is buried does not mean it is not festering.
I am having cancers cut out at the moment.  One of them got infected.  It was buried under stitches, but it was festering.  I have had to get anti-biotics to deal with that (which is whole other story, as I was allergic to the first lot)
Yet I am not one to spruke a perceived injustice done to me.  The person does matter more to me than the issue.  I try to be consistent and often I keep my mouth shut when it would be very easy to share my unhappiness inappropriately.  I do not think that I need to keep things bottled up, but I do need to share them with people that can help, and with a mind to getting that help.
I have shared things willy nilly and not felt better for it.  Instead of being a burdened shared and halved, it was like a burden shared being doubled.  I know I do not feel any better for having spoken, and the receiver gets mad about something they were not mad about before.
The honest best answer for me has been to pray for the offender.  I find it really hard to have something against someone I am praying for the best for.  It can start through gritted teeth but the more I do it, the more I genuinely want the best for the person who committed the injustice.
Merril had a classic example of this.  To this day she has a chipped tooth that was the result of someone at school who could only be described as a bully.  She because a Christian later and started praying for him.  Imagine her surprise when he came up to her in church one day and said hello.  She did not know how to react as she had only known him as a bully.  But he had become a Christian too and was a changed man.
Maybe what I have faced has been insignificant and minor compared to what many face.  But it has been real to me, and I have had to deal with it.  I do think the principal remains whether it is minor or major things I face.  Often the most complex issues have a simple solution.  They have for me anyway.