Double Trouble

Double Trouble
“Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone.”  That to me is a sombre saying but I reckon there is some truth in it.
It seems to me there are times in my life when what is thought or said by me is either misunderstood or not agreed with and requires that I stand alone.
This is not times of stubbornness or rejecting what all are saying for no other reason than “because”, but times where my words are taken a way unintended.  It can result from others listening to speak rather than listening to hear or someone having no idea what was intended in the first place and interpreting something in a way totally unintended.
I have been doing a bit of reading lately about talking with others.  One of the things that has stood out to me big time is the importance of listening.  It is important to the point of, if possible,  repeating back to the sayer what they have said. The intention is that the speaker corrects or further explains any thing not heard the way intended.
 It is funny but it is not safe to assume another’s understanding of a term or phrase is the same way I see it.  When not repeated back to the sayer it is so possible to hear what is not being said.  There is an assumption that a particular phrase means one thing when it totally means another.
Newspaper Headlines contain a wealth of double meanings.  For example “New Obesity Study Looks for Larger Test Group” sounds like the obesity study is looking for larger people for their test group.  Or “Criminals Get Nine Months in Violin Case” sounds like the criminals will spend nine months inside a violin case. (https://www.yourdictionary.com/articles/examples-double-entendre).  Another example I saw was from popular culture.  A guy may be described as “hot.”  Is their temperature being referred to, or their looks?
My outlook is that some things are worth explaining, and many are not.  I could spend a lot of time explaining or defending a stance yet the value of such a thing to me is dependent on the hearer.  If they are content only to hear what they want to hear I am wasting my time explaining.  If on the other hand someone really wants to understand then explaining is time well spent.
What matters to me is I am true to myself.  I cannot determine what another ultimately hears, but if I am open and true to myself, I am in a position to embrace or discard a view.