Decision

​Decisions
They reckon most people do not have a problem they have a decision to make.
But that flies in the face of heaps.  It seems it may not be the answer to all difficulties, but it does seem to be the case for many.  Though it does not seem be trendy to do anything other than navel gaze or to suggest what is complicated has an easy solution.
That in no way diminishes the reality of what someone may be going through, but in many ways for me it is a relief rather than a cop out.  I have been on the receiving end of what seemed to be something going around in circles.  A friend of mine went to a psychologist and ended up helping them rather than the other way around.  To me it is a big ask to be a part of a helping profession that only offers limited help.  It must be incredibly frustrating.  It is no wonder one study found that 62% of phycologists self-identified as depressed.
It reminded me of when I booked myself out of rehabilitation following my brain tumour and stroke.  I felt what was done had done me good for sure, but I felt a point had been reached where the therapy was on repeat.  I was not told of any issues or any reason for staying on.   In fact, when I booked out it was like I was aided and abetted.  There was no attempt to dissuade me.  I mentioned this to someone in the industry saying I felt they would have just milked me dry financially and then let me go.  They told me that is probably what would have happened.
At the end I felt it was no longer about problems but decisions I needed to make.  I felt there was no longer anything to be achieved by group therapy, but I needed to make decisions at home and on my own.  Others must have felt I was ready for that as there was no attempt to say I was not ready.
That to me is the end product of all therapy.  What starts as a problem ends as a decision.  Some it seems prefer to hold to their problem as their sense of identity is tied up in problems. Or they find it easier to blame others than admit need.  One who knows it is time to walk away is potentially made to feel they do not care.  Mostly exactly the opposite is true.
For me there comes a time when it is time to move on.  Physically, what can be done has been done.  I know that one day things will be different but right now they are the way they are.
I liken it to a guitar.  Once I had six strings and now I have four.  I may not be able to do what I did, but I can still do heaps.  All my problems still need solving and decisions still need to be made.   Physically another problem made have been added but they all require a decision.  Only then can I move on and start a new chapter that may be different, but no less intriguing.