Change in the Wind

To me it is amazing how things stick with me.
I reckon I would have still been a teenager or very early 20’s.  I was going through a stage which was right for me.  A stage of I can do this and it included a multitude of tasks.  The mistake I made was assuming because something was right for me, ot was the right time for everyone.  I had a whole list I was going to do and had put one on the fridge for others to do to.
The lightbulb moment was being told that just because something is right for me right now does not mean it is right for everyone.
Naturally I think there are decisions for everyone that are always right.  They are decisions that I have not invented but ones someone who really knows has set.  The amazing thing to me though is that I can choose to do what is best for me or choose not to do it.
When Merril and I got married there was stuff to bring to this house.  We decided not to micromanage stuff at the other end and to deal with it at this end.  That meant clearing desks by pushing everything on a desk into a box and then bringing out what was really wanted.
I really feel my life is like that.  Much has accumulated on the desk of my life.  Stuff that is useful now and stuff that may have been useful once, but no longer is.  I therefore decide what is important enough to put on my desk and discard what I do not need.
So often what was useful in the past clutters my future.  I take the lessons learned with me but do not let past lessons hinder future ones.  What I need once, becomes flesh and blood in me, and I move on.
I may have developed myself to do 10 push ups.  That does not mean I do 10 push ups for the rest of my life.  15 push up beacons and after that who knows.  I will reach my limit but right now I do not know what that is.  What works in the past is a stepping stone to the future.  It is a part of the journey rather than the destination.
That is why I think my journey is a very individual thing and it is not up to me to impose what is right for me at the time on another.  I have my own individual journey. I will love and pray for another, and hopefully inspire by my actions, but trying to force change in another never works.  Except as an instruction tool for kids forced obedience always leads to resentment.
Like when I made a list for others to do.  Didn’t work.  Change did happen.  Just not according to my timeframe.