Attraction

It is that time of the week again.  The day I get a James Clear email.  I feel there is pretty well always something to write about in those emails, and today is no exception.
Something he said was something Merril and I mentioned to each other yesterday. “"You draw out of the world what you put into it.  Want to attract reliable people? Be reliable.  Want to attract trustworthy people? Be trustworthy. Want to attract welcoming people? Be welcoming. Want to attract exceptional people? Be exceptional."
We have things going on at our place at the moment.  They include getting a new kitchen and having a granny flat (“The Cabin”) built.  We got some quotes concerning the Cabin and went with someone who at the time we had decided had a good attitude.  We could have gone a bit cheaper but we felt we were just a number reached in giving out quotes.  There was not the same interest, time or effort put into seeing what we wanted.
We felt the guy we went with was welcoming and trustworthy.  It has been interesting to me that they say “you can tell a bit about a person by their friends.”  I do not know if others he has had here in his employment are his friends, or just who he gets to do particular things, but this I know.  Every one of them I have liked.  I even had my bro visiting from the sunshine coast who met the person doing the Cabin, voluntarily comment how friendly the one doing the work was.
I am totally on board when I hear things like “like attracts like.”  I could add to the above “if you want to have friends show yourself friendly.”  To me that is a real key to attracting those of like mind.  The thing is, even when I don’t attract those of like mind, those who want to be that way are included in being attracted.
I consider myself to be a friendly person but any good qualities I have arise out of a new nature.  I know no matter how much I may pretend to be otherwise, the way I am will come out.  The more I try to change the more I don’t.  So for me it has been replacement of the old with the new.  Change has been an inside job.
We have found the kitchen people, the plumber, the electrician all to be friendly.  When we treat people the way we would like to be treated, there is a giving and working together response.